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An Interesting Thought on School Selection

Or rather Parenting. Or both as they go hand in hand.

All these days, I was under the impression that I have to choose a good school for my son. School where he will be exposed to usual academics as well as extra curricular activities and make life long friends. A good school that will ground him, teach him discipline and ensure that he doesn’t fall into bad influence as everyone going there will more or less want the same for their kids.

A senior colleague and a mom who has been through it all, pointed out that school plays a small part in the grand scheme of things. Kids rarely behave badly in front of teachers/ on school grounds. The negative influence and effects of that ‘bad influence’ are experienced outside school when they hang out with their friends – either in their homes, cafe’s or classes – where they can actually spend their pocket money.
And its wrong to think that good school/ marquee school == good friends. Its more important to know who your kids friends are and become friends with their parents. Get to know their parents and what they think is important to them ( money, reputation, latest gadgets, fashion, art etc) to get an insight into how the friend might be brought up. Once you find out parents who share similar values, together (you and the friends parents) can maintain a better control over how your kids turn out.If the 5 – 10 kids your kid hangs out with share similar values and upbringing then negative peer pressure is less(er).

There are less chances of them abusing their free time, pocket money and health.

As a kid, my mom was friends with all my friends mom and it was extremely hard to do anything without all mom’s agreeing to it. So birthday parties, sleepovers, movie outings, classes we attended etc were all regulated if not outright monitored. Who am I kidding – there was at least one parent or teacher present with us all-the-time.
I used to hate it. There were no secrets and all parents knew if something happened.
Even Vipul’s friends and their parents were friends. They still know what happens in our lives.

The more I think about it, its actually a wonderful way to teach kids values and morals and lessons in life-long friendship.So, maybe I should talk to my friends who are in the same boat and get Varun and others to go to same school – so there is a group already and we are a bit safe from the hazards of modern schooling.

Experienced parentsĀ  do you agree? Is it more manipulative? Controlling? Eager to hear your thoughts!

Yikes! We Got Homework

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We started Varun with a new play school (Oi Playschool) and at the end of the week we got homework!

Varun transitioned well to the new school. He enjoys the circle time, painting , playing in sand pit and rhymes as well as begun potty training there.

Today, we got an email with photos from the class and other activities they did like the sports day along with a document indicating what we should talk to our child about based on the next fortnight’s theme ….and a list of questions to evaluate what all does he absorbed from what was taught in last week.

And we have to turn it in to the teachers.

I didn’t think we would have to do this till he is in elementary school. Needless to add, I used to hate homework in school.


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